Its Impossible to Make My Wife Happy& Heres a Wake-Up Call for Husbands Who Think They Can

You simply CAN’T make her happy. Now hear me out…

By Dave Willis

When I was engaged and just a few days away from the wedding, my wise Dad said, Son, always invest the best of yourself into your marriage. Put your wife ahead of yourself. Strive to make her a happy woman. A happy wife creates a happy life.

My parents have a wonderful marriage. Theyre best friends. They love each other AND they actually like each other too! They have the kind of marriage that made me genuinely excited about getting married someday, so I took dads advice to heart. Ive found it to be completely true! Whenmy wife Ashleyis happy, Im happy.

Now, you might be asking, How can I make my wife happy? Thats a great question, and a complicated one, because I dont think its possible for one person to make another person happy. In fact, when we expect a spouse to make us happy, both spouses usually end up unhappy. A lot of marriages struggle because both spouses are unhappy and blame each other for their unhappiness. Still, Ive learned that there are some very specific ways a husband can and should cultivate happiness and joy for his wife.

Most of my blogs and books contain lists of things to do, but Im going to do something different here. Im going to share just one thing, because Im convinced that if youll do this one thing, it will create more happiness for your wife and more peace and joy in your marriage. Ive found we all tend to learn best through stories, so Im going to illustrate this one principle through a true story that just happened in our marriage

Ashley and I recently had the opportunity to take on a project that would instantly bring a good amount of additional income. I wanted to do it! I was already mentally spending the extra money. The problem is that the stress and strain of this project was going to fall mostly on Ashley. Shes already working so hard in so SO many areas and she doesnt have much extra margin to take on new projects. Still, she saw that I was excited about the opportunity, so to be supportive and encouraging to me, she agreed to do it. Shes always so willing to support me (even when my ideas are bad)!

As we started making preparations to begin the project, I sensed the stress she was feeling. She insisted that she was fine and willing to take on the extra workload, but I knew she didnt have peace about it. I made the decision to pull the plug. I knew that no amount of extra money would be worth taking joy or peace away from her. I told her that I didnt want to do it, because Id much rather have the extra peace and joy in our home than the extra money and stress.

I could see the weight of that stress lift off her shoulders and then she gave me that smile that still melts my heart every time!Honestly, it was a no-brainer! That little bit of extra money wouldnt have meant much when Im at the end of my life looking back, but theres no price tag I could ever place on our relationship. Giving up this money was a small (but also a tangible) way that I could show her the place of priority she will always have in my heart.

So, whats that one thing a husband should do to make his wife happy? It goes back to what my dad said to me all those years ago. Its simply to prioritize your wifes needs ahead of your own agenda. Its to show her that you valueyour marriage more than your money. Its showing her that her happiness is the key to your own happiness. Its showing her that she matters to you more than anything or anyone else.

I cant make my wifehappy, but Ive learned that I can fuel Ashleys happiness when she knows that I value HERabove any other relationship, pursuit or agenda. When she knows that she doesnt have to compete with my career, my hobbies or anything else to have the best of my time and attention, it gives her confidence and joy. When she knows that Im willing to sacrifice my own agenda for the good of our marriage, she feels protected and cherished.She deserves my best; not my leftovers. When Im willing to give my best, shes much happierand so am I.

For more tools to help you build a happy, healthy marriage, check out my bookThe Seven Laws of Love: Essential Principles for Building Stronger Relationshipsand our brand new online program atFightingForMyMarriage.com.

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About the Author:Dave Willis is a pastor, husband and dad of fourboys. With his wife, Ashley, Dave founded StrongerMarriages.org and the Marriage app as a way to encourage couples to build stronger marriages. You can connect with him on Twitter and follow his blog at Patheos.

Read more: http://www.faithit.com/how-to-have-happy-wife-happy-dave-willis/

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