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Your wedding cake isnt just a dessert, its a part of your dcor.
After all that time spent tasting and designing your dream confection, you wont want to skimp on presentation.
Whether you opt for fun linens, a fancy backdrop or an abundance of flowers, decorating a cake display is a great way to reflect your personalities.
Get some inspiration with these ideas.
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Erik Erikson was a psychologist who famously developed the stages of psychosocial development.
Each of these stages constitutes a crisis every human will experience during his or her lifetime. Ones ability to meet, overcome and advance past these crises is paramount to his or her development.
One of these crises constitutes falling in love.
Before falling in love, humans encounter the identity crisis, which occurs during adolescence. This stage focuses on the existential question of Who am I, and what can I be?
That question alone triggers memories of my own identity crisis as a young teenager dealing with the onset of puberty. I would get angry at the drop of a hat, and I struggled to understand my place in the world.
What was my purpose, and what was I going to do with my life?
Successfully exiting the identity crisis stage is an essential precursor to adulthood, as teenagers leave their youth behind and start to grow up.
For me, conquering this stage took an incredibly long time. Erikson defines this state as beginning as early as 13 and ending around 19.
However, I was in my 20s when I battled with my identity crisis.
Now, a major downside of failing to conquer a stage in Eriksons allotted time period is the fact that it leaks into the next phase of your life.
As a teenager, one can get away with avoiding the pressures of adulthood like committing to a career and acknowledging the real world. However, as an adult, I was still hesitant to make important life choices.
Ultimately, its safe to say my identity crisis didnt wrap up until I was in my early 20s. (To read more about how I overcame that part of my life and finally grew up, check out this article.)
After the identity crisis stage comes falling in love, or the intimacy stage. This is where the competing forces of love and loneliness emerge.
Text-savvy Millennials perusing Tinder find themselves pondering the existential question of Can I love?
Erikson posits that during this stage, young adults start to form relationships as they learn about commitment and sacrifice. This preps them for the next stage of life, which includes marriage and beyond.
Eriksons timeline for the intimacy stage starts at age 20 and concludes at age 24.
When I first read about Eriksons psychosocial stages, I was 24 years old and had never been in a relationship before.
Reading Eriksons work was a punch to my gut because suddenly, I found myself pondering Eriksons question.
Could I love?
As a late-blooming 24-year-old, I felt terribly lonely. For a period of time, I truly believed I would always be alone.
Thankfully, I was lucky enough to enter a relationship at the age of 25.
Nevertheless, losing my relationship virginity was akin to a robot suddenly acquiring emotional intelligence.
The amount I learned, changed and absorbed merely through a few months of being in a relationship was absurd.
Below, I offer some tips and advice to fellow late bloomers like myself, who cant seem to land a girlfriend:
The entire inspiration for this article was Eriksons psychosocial stages.
At the age of 24, I was past his allotted time period where one discovers his or her ability to love. Thus, I believed my fate had been sealed.
Maybe love wasnt meant for everyone.
Looking back, my thought process was comically dramatic.
But it was tough being surrounded by friends in blooming relationships, while my major responsibilities were checking my fantasy football team and indulging in video games.
Ultimately, you can consider this article a giant middle finger to Erik Erikson.
Sure, he was a pioneer.
Yes, his theories were brilliant.
But whos to decide the appropriate time frame for figuring our sh*t out?
A common themeamong men who cant seem to find girlfriends is they’re terrible with women.
Quite simply, if you cant seduce a woman, the odds of falling in love arent exactly in your favor.
Throughout high school and into college, I was extremely uncomfortable with affection. The mere idea of asking a woman out on a date terrified me.
In other words, I never got laid.
While my friends fell in love, formed relationships or simply slept around, I adopted a lone wolf attitude.
One of the most important changes for me was working on my social skills and confidence.
A book I cannot recommend enough is Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson. This book offers insightful, actionable and realistic tips on meeting and dating women, and it changed my life for the better.
Either way, what I came to learn about dating and relationships was quite simple: Anyone can do it.
I used to be so awkward, I often wondered how I would ever maneuver through a relationship that required me to comfortably touch, kiss and cuddle my potential girlfriend.
Well, heres the good news: Its pretty damn easy.
Last I checked, you kiss using your lips. If you like someone, touching him or her eventually becomes second nature.
In fact, I used to notice myself craving the touch of my girlfriend, and not in the name of lust.
In the end, the most important lesson I came to learn is when you meet the rightgirl, fear becomes irrelevant. You will do whatever it takes to call her yours.
This is going to sound robotic, but falling in love with someone who graduated from the same high school as me nearly a decade prior made me realize love is really a game of strategy.
For example, attempting a relationship with a total stranger is high risk because there is no foundation for the relationship. This is why most people have difficulty establishing anything real in the bar scene.
Attempting a relationship with someone you meet through mutual interests is slightly less risky because you already have something in common.
So, enjoying hobbies like dancing or cooking classes can serve as fun, low-pressure ways to potentially meet women.
Attempting a relationship with someone you meet through mutual friends is even less risky due to social approval.
Lastly, attempting a relationship with someone you are actually friends with is your best bet because you know enough about one another to make an educated decision as to whether or not it will work out.
Ultimately, if you want to create a successful, long-term relationship, its important to put yourself in situations where you will meet low-risk candidates (intimate parties, weddings and social events).
If you don’t find yourself in many low-risk situations, it’s time to work on expanding your social network.
My initial reaction to Eriksons words was panic, and I decided to kick my dating life into full gear.
At my peak, I was on Match.com, Plentyoffish.com, Jdate.com, Tinder and Hinge. I sent loads of messages daily, which extended far beyond the realm of hello.
I rarely got responses.
Not only was I dating online, I was all over the bar scene. While it was fun, it was also exhausting.
Although its corny (and Im not the first person to declare it), the moment I stopped searching for love and just took a breath, it practically fell into my lap.
So consider your current social situation.
Do you need to remodel your life and put yourself in situations where you can meet potential partners? Or do you need to just chill out and take a break?
For me, I just needed to take a step back and breathe.
If you are depressed, unemployed and underachieving, love might mask your downfalls briefly.
But those things wont go away until you man up and handle them. In fact, these things will eventually destroy your relationship.
As a depressed college student, I envisioned falling in love as my saving grace.
I could expose my insecurities to my girlfriend, and our acceptance and embrace of one another would be so magical, it would transcend any feelings of negativity.
Of course, I had watched a few too many movies.
Dont get me wrong; love is pretty incredible.
But it can also make you blind. During my relationship, I struggled to find meaning in my career while teetering between staying at my comfortable job and quitting to pursue my dreams.
Yet, instead of making a decision, I avoided committing to either path and started to drift in an unhappy state of inaction.
In other words, I was that same college kid reverting back to bad habits.
Looking back now, I used to think my girlfriend was negatively impacting the balance of my life due to her consumption of my free time.
Of course, that consumption was normal. Rather, I was looking for an excuse for my inability to take ownership of my life.
Instead of realizing I was the problem, I selfishly believed our relationship was the problem.
It was that blindness that sunk our relationship.
Dont make the mistake of thinking love can magically fix your life. As I came to learn, it cant.
Thats no ones job but our own.
As a lonely man in his mid-20s, it was all too easy to foresee a future devout of love. However, I firmly believe its never too late for love.
This is just a negative mindset.
In reality, the major lesson I came to learn was not about the possibility of love.
Rather, its the fact that love is only a small piece of this maddening puzzle we Millennials call life.
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the hym “Guide me O thou great Redeemer” from the wedding of prince william and kate.
Guide me, O thou great redeemer,
Pilgrim through this barren land;
I am weak, but thou art mighty,
Hold me with thy powerful hand;
Bread of heaven, bread of heaven
Feed me till I want no more;
Feed me till I want no more.
Open now the crystal fountain
Whence the healing stream doth flow;
Let the fire and cloudy pillar
Lead me all my journey through:
Strong deliverer, strong deliverer;
Be thou still my strength and shield;
Be thou still my strength and shield.
When I tread the verge of Jordan,
Bid my anxious fears subside;
Death of death, and hell’s destruction
Land me safe on Canaan’s side:
Songs of praises, songs of praises,
I will ever give to thee;
I will ever give to thee.
1. Hay un mínimo de 200 invitados y todos también estan en la iglesia.
2. Hay aproximadamente 20 damas de honor – todas son parientes porque se habría dado la Tercera Guerra Mundial si escoges a una prima y no a la otra.
3. Te tardas una eternidad en encontrar tu asiento porque todos tienen los mismos nombres.
¿Será que alguien en esta familia NO le puso a su hija Francesca, Maria, Vinny o Lorenzo por el amor de Dios?
4. El cóctel incluye todo el antipasto de tus sueños mas salvajes.
Diez tipos de aceitunas, una docena de tipos de queso, prosciutto, salami, mortadela, champiñones rellenos, alcachofas marinadas, calamares…
5. Hay varias botellas de vino en cada mesa.
Y todas estarán vacías en una hora.
6. A la novia y al novio les tomó aproximadamente tres meses resolver el orden de los asientos…
… ya que la tía Rose no puede sentarse al lado de la tía Giovanna porque no se han hablado desde hace diez años y el tío Tony todavía no le ha devuelto al primo Gino el dinero que le prestó.
7. Hay un velo. Y es muy importante.
Vamos, novia moderna. Atrévete a intentar ponerte ese extravagante o moderno vestido y no uses velo. Tu familia no estará de acuerdo.
8. La tarantela sonará (al menos dos veces).
9. Escucharás “Finiculi, Finicula” y también “Volare”.
10. Y todos llevarán a tu nonna Italiana a la pista de baile…
11. …justo a tiempo para que te pregunte a ti, y a todos tus hermanos y primos solteros cuándo se casarán.
12. En cuestión de una hora, todas las mujeres estarán bailando sin zapatos.
13. El discurso de la dama de honor incluye que no puede esperar a ser madrina.
14. Si la madre de la novia se viste de negro, podría ser una señal de que no precisamente quiere al novio.
15. Siempre están *esos* miembros de la familia que esperan hasta el final de la boda para poner dinero en la tarjeta – cuando deciden si fue una fiesta suficientemente buena.
16. Y luego está ese tío que solamente aparece en bodas y funerales, y todo el mundo está bastante seguro que podría ser parte de una banda.
17. La hora vienesa NO es una broma.
18. Y probablemente incluye uno de estos chicos malos.
19. Puedes apostar hasta tu último dólar a que el pastel de bodas tiene crema de cannoli en alguna de sus capas.
Eso o es un pastel tiramisú.
20. La máquina de café expreso hace una entrada más grandiosa que la de los propios novios.
21. Hay por lo menos un grupo de familiares que traen recipientes para llevarse sobras.
Hey, no hay vergüenza en ello. ¡Los italianos odian desperdiciar la comida!
23. Que probablemente es un adorno pequeño de cerámica que coleccionará polvo en tu cajón lleno de chatarra.
24. And if you’re a New York Italian-American, there’s a high chance you’ve had or been to a wedding here…
25. Todos y cada uno de los chismes de tus invitados mayores se hablarán solamente en italiano.
26. Todos se van después de haber pasado un rato INCREIBLE… porque hay que aceptarlo: los italianos saben divertirse.
OF COURSE you picked green. I look horrible in green.
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1. The young man in the back was definitely there for the championship picture.
2. The man in the back definitely went to San Francisco that one time.
3. The man pointing in the background was definitely there for the staff photo.
4. The man on the right was definitely at his brother’s graduation.
5. The man on the far left was definitely at the wedding. Don’t you remember? He was busting ghosts the whole time.
7. There was the great picture of him with the bride and all the bridesmaids.
9. I swear, there’s something about this photo that makes him look 30 years younger.
10. It’s weird. I don’t remember your roommate being in that picture, but sure enough, there he is.
11. Remember that time we all definitely met John Green? That was a lot of fun.
12. Mike and Dave were definitely there last night. They were in the back of that great shot we took.
13. Man, the guy in front was definitely the life of the party last night.
14. That guy was definitely at Hooters. Such a player.
15. Glad all the gals could make it for our nice family dinner!
16. Tons of ladies follow these guys everywhere they go. Definitely not just a bunch of dudes.
17. Christine was definitely on the family trip. She was right next to Ben in that one picture.
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